Leadership · Chapter 14 of 16
Leading with Wisdom
Guidelines 9–16
People should be able to ask honest questions, admit mistakes, and discuss struggles without fearing humiliation. A safe group is not one without correction; it is one where truth is shared with love.
- •Set clear expectations for respect, confidentiality, participation, and accountability.
- •Never use someone's confession as a joke, illustration, or weapon.
- •Avoid gossip — including carelessly shared prayer requests.
- •Respond to mistakes with grace while still addressing harmful behavior.
- •Don't pressure members to reveal details they're not ready to share.
- •Address bullying, manipulation, and discrimination promptly.
- •Serious pastoral, mental health, abuse, or safety concerns may need qualified help beyond the group.
Ephesians 4:15 — speak the truth in love.
A practical checklist for every group leader
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The heart of a discipleship leader
- ✦Model the Christian life.
- ✦Serve with humility and dependence on God's grace.
- ✦Build relationships marked by trust and commitment.
- ✦Listen carefully and ask thoughtful questions.
- ✦Understand and lead people with different personalities.
- ✦Protect the group through healthy boundaries and respectful relationships.
- ✦Teach Scripture faithfully and encourage obedience.
- ✦Equip others to grow, serve, and disciple others.
“I planted, Apollos watered, but God gave the growth.”
Recommended resource: The Master Plan of Evangelism, Robert Coleman.
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