Leadership · Chapter 13 of 16
Becoming a Discipler
Guidelines 1–8
The goal of discipleship is to become a disciple maker. If a disciple is one who worships Jesus and learns to be like Him in every part of life, a discipler “inspires others to worship Jesus and to be like Him in every part of life.”
The growth of a Christian from disciple to discipler is an expected one. Something is wrong with a disciple-life lacking this natural progression. Why become a discipler?
- ✦It is the command of Christ.
- ✦It is a logical “next step.”
- ✦A true disciple should be willing to pass on what he or she has learned.
- ✦Mentoring others also helps us to grow.
Essential guidelines for leading a group
Model the Christian life in spiritual, emotional, physical, and intellectual areas. We won't always be the best example, but we should show a genuine desire to grow.
- •Model the attitudes, behaviors, and commitments you encourage in others.
- •Live out the Covenant Commitments with integrity and transparency.
- •Be honest about your struggles without making excuses for sinful behavior.
- •Admit when you are wrong and ask for forgiveness when necessary.
- •Model punctuality, preparation, faithfulness, and respect.
- •People learn from what you do as much as from what you teach.
You do not have to be perfect to lead, but you should be sincere, teachable, and committed to growing in Christ.
Leading different personalities
The Talkative Member
Challenge: May unintentionally dominate discussions.
Thank them for sharing, then invite others: “That's helpful. Let's hear what someone else thinks, too.”
The Quiet or Reserved Member
Challenge: May need more time to feel comfortable.
Build trust through personal conversations, allow time to think, and offer chances to share without demanding a response.
The Questioner or Skeptic
Challenge: May raise difficult questions or challenge common beliefs.
Welcome honest questions, examine Scripture together, and admit when you don't know. Keep it respectful and focused.
The Emotionally Expressive Member
Challenge: May share deeply or need extra emotional support.
Listen with compassion, acknowledge feelings, keep appropriate boundaries, and offer follow-up conversations when needed.
The Argumentative or Dominating Member
Challenge: May turn discussion into debate or discourage others.
Set clear expectations, correct disruption calmly, address recurring issues privately, and protect others' chance to participate.
The Knowledgeable or Experienced Member
Challenge: May answer every question or intimidate newer believers.
Appreciate their knowledge while inviting them to listen and help others learn. Growth involves obedience and character, not knowledge alone.
The Struggling or Inconsistent Member
Challenge: May miss meetings, struggle with application, or seem unmotivated.
Reach out personally, seek to understand, encourage practical next steps, and offer accountability without shaming or assuming motives.
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